Hey folks!

Happy Thanksgiving! A couple things on my mind...

1. Mental Toughness: Anyone listen to the Hormozi episode this week on mental toughness? He breaks down mental toughness into 4 components - I'll give a hypothetical example of a parent with a strong willed 3 year old as a very hypothetical example (ha):

- Tolerance: How long can you endure opposition before you change your behavior? (How long can you endure 3yo's acting out before you react.)
​ - Fortitude: How much do you alter your behavior under opposition? (Take a deep breath and step outside for a sec vs. snap and yell)
- Resilience: How quickly do you return to your desired state? (Immediately back to normal vs. brood for half a day)
​ - Adaptability: Do you improve or decline as a result? (Build a plan to train proactively to avoid this circumstance in the future vs. just resent your child going forward)

It was a helpful conversation for Chandler and I to talk about where our biggest opportunity for improvement is across these 4. For me it's resilience - I'd love to bounce back quicker when I'm thrown off. You?

2. Coming Of Age For Daughters (Help): Chandler and I are planning the coming of age process for our daughter Charleston (she just turned 12). Our general mindset is that she’s now entering a period of “apprenticeship” under Chandler where she’ll be copying and pasting how Chandler lives - spiritual habits, exercise, social life, responsibilities, etc. We want to kick it off with a mother daughter trip. Anyone know of a pre packaged option for mothers and daughters (like The Quarry Project for boys) or had a good experience creating your own?

3. Proverbs For A Dollar: Each morning I read the Proverb of the day (e.g. today is Proverbs 28) with whichever kid goes to work with me. It’s simple, super practical, and loaded with wisdom. Last week I added a new challenge: Anytime a kid cites a Proverb in a real life moment, I owe them a dollar. For example last night we stayed out too late, one kid was losing it, and Everett leans over and goes, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child.” Boom. A dollar. Proverbs are basically Seinfeld quotes. Once you start looking, you see them everywhere.

That's it for this week! Enjoy your weekend!

Best,

Blake

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